tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-180353982012-02-08T22:46:01.084-10:00The definitive Stuart Hayashi Blog at Blogspot: like <i>no place</i> on the world wide webStuart K. Hayashihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10815289533238616185noreply@blogger.comBlogger441100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18035398.post-25631134619851048932012-01-24T20:17:00.001-10:002012-01-26T06:32:19.567-10:00

I don't know who originated this sign or its words. But to whomever it is, I am grateful. This is an apt assessment of something that goes on quite often -- more often than people would like to admit. I said that the only way I would once again feel safe in your presence would be if you returned to seeing a mental health professional on a regular basis. I stand by what I said -- and it's

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Back in the spring of 2008, I met a very smug real-estate agent who bragged about going back to university and taking philosophy classes. Then, as if no one had ever heard anything like this before, he happily recounted an inane "thought experiment" his philosophy instructor relayed to him. The philosophy teacher said, "Imagine that I issue this threat to you: by the end of the day, you must

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Stuart K. Hayashi A guy once told me, "There's a definitional difference between 'convincing' someone and 'persuading' him. To persuade someone is to influence him into taking some action he otherwise would not have taken. By contrast, to convince someone is to simply influence him into holding a certain belief in his head that he otherwise would not have held; convincing someone is not

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I told someone, "The only way I will ever again feel safe in your presence is if you return to seeing a mental health professional on a regular basis." Should this person ever visit this blog, I want something to be understood. I said that not because I do not care about you, but exactly because I do.  You can go on looking very confident and outwardly successful to everyone else and, as

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Among the nine criteria for diagnosing Borderline Personality Disorder, another is the presence of "identity disturbances."  As Psych Central phrases it, There are sudden and dramatic shifts in self-image, characterized by shifting goals, values and vocational aspirations. There may be sudden changes in opinions and plans about career, sexual identity, values and types of friends. These

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A guy once told me that I was obliviously inconsiderate, and that I would only regain his respect once I had learned what it was like to walk a mile in his shoes. I wanted his respect back, and so I decided to try exactly what he said. It didn't work. He didn't appreciate how I took and used his footwear without asking.

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Suppose I repeatedly insisted to you that all of the men who walked past me in Waikiki leered at me and wanted to sexually assault me.  Then suppose that, when we walk in Waikiki side-by-side, you notice that the men who walk past me simply mind their own business; you catch no leering.  If I repeatedly make this distrustful insistence to you about men -- that they're all ogling me -- it might be

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The recent news about Amy Winehouse and U.S. football player Brandon Marshall are worth comment. But first I will address the perception that there is a correlation between having Borderline Personality Disorder and being fixated on bleak, dreary, morbid, dark, quasi-suicidal images. Mood and Melancholy, and Black and White As suicidal imagery and self-destructive imagery are among the

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I don't have "beliefs."  What I have are rational convictions.  ^_^

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On my Facebook page about BPD, I had a helpful exchange with someone back on March 16, 2011, on the subjects of Borderline Personality Disorder, gender identity confusion, and confusion on sexual orientation. That specific exchange is over here. Of course, it is important to bear in mind that someone confused over gender identity is not necessarily undecided on sexual orientation, and

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Among the diagnostic criteria for BPD, one is the presence of "transient stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms." I am going to clarify that "delusions," in this context, refers almost exclusively to what psychologists term "non-bizarre delusions," as opposed to "bizarre delusions." This, of course, raises the question, "What is a 'non-bizarre delusion,' as

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Stuart K. Hayashi "Inspirational" -- to inspire and be rational.  ^_^ It is no longer enough for me to engage in rationality.  Henceforth, I must engage in inspirationality!  :-D 

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I am not "the 99 percent".  :-( I am already a whole person.  Ergo, I am 100 percent.  ^_^

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Today -- September 2 -- is Atlas Shrugged Day! ^_^ You may have noticed that some posts that were once visible on this blog are no longer visible. They have not been deleted. I put them in "saved as draft." They might appear here again one day. :-)

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Darling Ingrid, on this most glorious of occasions, I wish you the happiest of birthdays. Whether it is in Tromso, Norway, or in Honolulu or Mililani, Hawaii, your charm, uniqueness, and intelligence are remembered and appreciated. May life at age 25 continue to be grand and enthralling, full of wonderment to discover and savor. Adorable fire tigress, may this year be the best one yet. :'-)

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Stuart K. Hayashi What I am about to say is a generalization about persons suffering from currently-untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Naturally, these generalizations do not necessarily apply to all people with BPD at all times. This assessment is based on what I have observed in my own experiences, plus what some persons diagnosed with BPD have written to me. Bear in mind

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Stuart K. Hayashi of Hawaii, blog at blogspot As the mental health vlogger and recovering BPD patient MeAndMyBlackTable helpfully explains, "Borderline Personality Disorder is not a Multiple Personality Disorder. However, when you are having a conversation with someone who has BPD, it can feel like you're having a conversation with more than one person." I do know of at least one case where

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Stuart Hayashi blog at blogspot Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) -- also known as body dysmorphia -- is a persistent psychological condition involving a sense of alienation from one's own natural physical features. Someone with BDD can look in the mirror and be disturbed by this, saying, "Who is that? I don't recognize this person. It's all wrong. This is ugly. Everyone tells me I'm

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Stuart Hayashi blog at blogspot Earlier I blogged about BPD treatment practices in Honolulu, and noted that within Psychology Today's index of mental health care professionals on Oahu, only one was listed as a specialist for treating Borderline Personality Disorder and gender identity issues (see here). I thought there was only one such specialist on Oahu, but there is another in Kailua. And

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As you may have noticed by now, this blog is not being used for me to broadcast my views on controversial social issues. It now serves a much more important purpose: for me to reminisce about very beautiful and meaningful moments in my life. I have previously linked to my Picasa account. But now I have a good Photobucket one as well. There were particularly many very good memories from the

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I don't know how or if my silly Rubik's Cube configurations can offer any comfort to anyone on this day of Norway's national tragedy. However, I made this design as an unusual token of my solidarity with the people of Norway. Larger versions of this picture are visible on Picasa here and Facebook here.

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Stuart Hayashi, blog at blogspot Thursday, April 15, 2010, was the day of the Honolulu Tea Party rally. Makena the magnificent and the enchanting Ingrid L. Johnsen -- now of SIFE HPU (sifehpu) fame -- accompanied Stuart K. Hayashi there, where he gave a two-minute speech in defense of deregulation and fiscal responsibility. Afterward, we went back to Zippy's and had more rousing discussions.

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This blog post won't be the usual integrated essay that I normally write. It is just a series of comments pertaining to BPD. Body Dysmorphic Disorder Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD, or "body dysmorphia") is a condition in which the sufferer frequently feels a very painful or disorientating sense of alienation from one's own natural-born physical features. One can look in the mirror and think,

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Stuart K. Hayashi There are some people who achieve a form of professional or academic success, and yet their inner, private lives are full of emotional self-sabotage that could be prevented if only they sought -- or returned to -- psychiatric care and stuck with it. Sometimes such a person might rationalize, "My very success in public proves that I don't need help!" But if that were the

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This is Ingrid L. Johnsen and Stuart Hayashi together on Monday, May 17, 2010 at P. F. Chang's. It's a less-zoomed-in, less-cropped version of the photo previously appearing on this blog over here. The entire set of photos is over here. It was a night of great tenderness and warmth. I am grateful for it, and for Ingrid coming into my life. :'-) Two months prior to this photo, Ingrid said

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Of all the books I have read on BPD, the one that has most emotionally affected me is Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland (this is a pseudonym). Almost all of the book is available for viewing on Google Books over here. Naturally, every case of BPD is unique. The problems that Ms. Reiland wrote about in her memoir are not necessarily

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Stuart K. Hayashi Psychology Today has a website that helps readers search for therapists in their region who are specialized in treating their particular condition. I ran such a search for Oahu. To my chagrin, there is only one psychotherapist in Honolulu who lists herself as being able to treat BPD (see here). I wish there was a whole lot of psychotherapists competing to treat BPD patients

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On Monday, April 5, 2010, darling Ingrid L. Johnsen posed for these photos in front of Stuart Hayashi. She was looking very serious, as usual. . . . Either that, or Stuart was being even more obnoxious than usual that day. ;-) The full-bodied photo is the original one; the others are zoomed-in. The entire photo set is over here. This other photo was taken a month later: Tuesday, May 4,

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Stuart K. Hayashi Ingrid L. Johnsen of HPU, darling as always, being cuddly and sweet at Oceans. :'-) The other photos from that night are over here. You may notice that this blog is no longer a home to commentaries on controversial issues. For new blog entries on social issues, go to my new blog here.

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Stuart K. Hayashi There is an issue found in some people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) that can be called an issue of Object Constancy. Though I am not a psychologist, I have read enough about this subject for me to feel relatively confident in discussing it in a more public venue. What I am about to explain is my interpretation of the writings on psychology that I have

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Ingrid Johnsen -- the treat from Tromso and darling of Hawaii Pacific University (HPU) -- and Stuart K. Hayashi at the Oasis. Temporary 2nd Post from Tuesday, January 24, 2012: I told Person X, "The only way I will ever again feel safe in your presence is if you return to seeing a mental health professional on a regular basis." In case Person X ever visits this blog, I want

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On Monday, May 17, 2010, Ingrid Johnsen took me to a Waikiki restaurant called P. F. Chang's. The food and service were good.

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Stuart K. HayashiWriting this is an annual tradition for me, as February 2, 2009, marks 104 years to the day of Ayn Rand's birth. Of course, American culture associates the date of February 2 with yet another tradition. It is said that, on this day, if a politician crawls out of his hole and sees his shadow, then we will have sixty more years of federal farm subsidies.A crusty old man once said

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Stuart K. HayashiOn Facebook.Com, I made an Events page for the "book bomb" for the 1999 Plume edition of Atlas Shrugged, which is scheduled for Monday, February 2, 2009 (Ayn Rand's birthday). My Facebook.Com page about the event is quoted on Objectivism Online over here. As you can see, not every poster is fond of the idea.Now, I will pretty much restate -- mostly word-for-word -- what I said

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This is a video starring and written by Rhys Southan. The music is done by Eliza Wren Payne, who briefly speaks in the film.It originally appeared online on FreedomAds.Org in the year 2000.

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Primordial PoliticsStuart K. HayashiNote: This essay is Copyright (C) 2006 Stuart K. Hayashi and may not be reproduced by any means in any form without his expressed written permission.This essay is actually the first chapter in a five-chapter treatise. I do not yet know whether the other four installments will appear on this blog.“Live free or die.”General John Stark (1728–1822) proclaimed

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Stuart K. HayashiIf cavemen were Noble Savages, then tyrannical Medieval lords were Savage Nobles.And if I win a certain overrated million-dollar peace prize from some not-for-profit foundation started by a Swedish inventor of an explosive weapon, I will be a Nobel Savage.

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Stuart K. Hayashi So my weekly report from SiteMeter.Com says that on Wednesday, April 19, 2006, eight people looked at this blog. I hope all eight of those people followed my link to my other, better blog, The Fiftieth Star. That's where the more serious posts are. ;-)

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Stuart K. HayashiThe following is a slighlty revised version of an article of mine that originally appeared in the Tuesday, April 18, 2006 edition of Hawaii Reporter. This also appears on my real, better blog -- The Fiftieth Star. So check it out right now!"Government is not reason; it is not eloquence. Government is force ... " --Apocryphally attributed to George WashingtonPolitical freedom

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Stuart K. HayashiOver the past month, people have been coming to this blog, but not at all to my original blog, The Fiftieth Star. Actually, my more frivolous posts ended up in Stu-Topia; the more serious thoughts are on The Fiftieth Star. So for higher-quality content, check out The Fiftieth Star.The main reason why I created Stu-Topia in the first place is that some months ago I was unsure

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Stuart K. Hayashi This is what I look like.

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Stuart K. HayashiAs a Japanese-American, I have often been bewildered by the social mores of the other ethnic Asians in my home state of Hawaii.But perhaps I now understand them. I surmise that their ideal society is the one from the movie Pleasantville. They want to live in a very quaint, close-knit community, where everyone is friendly with one another and, well, pleasant. Households should

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Stuart K. HayashiI often hear that Christianity promotes families to remain cohesive and loving. How often have we heard both left- and rightwing voices in the media use the phrase "family values" synonymously with traditional Christian fundamentalism?That is all very interesting, because, according to a very well-written work of fiction known as the Holy Bible, Jesus Himself believed that there

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Stuart K. HayashiI founded a blog known as The Fiftieth Star back in 2003. In the past two years I have not blogged on it as much my 2003 self expected I would. However, there were occasions on which I thought about posting some item on there, but decided against it, because I decided that my post would be so inconsistent with the rest of the subject matter on that site to render my post

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