More Info for My Troubled Friend

Stuart K. Hayashi

I have written much-more-interesting blog posts exposing some falsehoods she and I were both told on topics of political economy not directly related to BPD. The truth is in my essays “Is the Pirating of Intellectual Property Just a Form of Intra-Industry Competition?” (spoiler: it’s not) and “Libertarians and the Myth of the Winner-Takes-All Patent Monopoly.”

I have found some YouTube videos from psychologists that explain very articulately what happened between us. I was what psychologists call the “Favorite Person” of someone who has borderline personality disorder. As the psychologists’ understanding predicted would happen, you eventually unpersoned me. It happens that in the role of Favorite Person, you replaced me with Pretentious, Chalky-White-Face-Corpse Artist, as he and his sister-in-law and brother have been all too willing to reinforce your morbid gestures and the façades you have put on.

   

   

   

 In this video, Dr. Fox says that persons suffering from BPD often have difficulties with their memories.

   

  

Dr. Fox explains that one of the “worst coping strategies” is “emotional numbing.” Here, as emotions are often very painful, there is a great temptation to try to avoid emotions and emotional attachment. Such a policy can be phrased as “Keeping my feelings to myself has always been the safest choice.” No, it is not. As Dr. Fox notes, such emotional numbing “temporarily blocks pain but prevents healing.”

A therapist named Betty DeShong Meador wisely observed, “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” That empowerment in life can be yours, if only you choose to commit to it. 🥲